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New hookup, but my mind is melting

I've been going out 4 or 5 nights a week for the the past month and a half and last Friday it resulted in my first new hook-up of the year. There's not much interesting about what happened. I met her in a club and saw there was interest from early on. I kept the tension as high as I could and bounced home when I felt the time was right.

It was fun but now I'm starting to remember what I struggled with in the past when learning these skills. It's very draining for me to have so many superficial interactions with people. Every conversation is just complete nonsense and it doesn't help that the girls are often tipsy or drunk. I feel my mind slowly melting away leaving only the most base thoughts and instincts. I have a friend who thrives in this mode of being. It gets him results so he doesn't care.

But it's incredibly draining for me and sex isn't enough of a reward at the end of it all. It's Saturday night and I went out to watch a couple of bands. B…

Reddit Article: Male Behavioural Archetypes

An interesting article posted over on Reddit with a focus on the Sigma archetype. I don't have anything to add at the moment other than that I think that you could say that Alphas 'lead' while Sigmas 'inspire'. Male Behavioural Archetypes

Tinder results so far

In the past my results with online dating have not been very good but I figured it was worth trying again since my lifestyle has improved since then. I started swiping half way through February and have 49 matches which resulted in 11 conversations but no dates yet. A couple of those seemed interested in meeting up but when it came to setting a time and place it was not possible to finalise something. I wonder if my messages are incongruent with what my bio and pictures say about me. I'm quite playful, doing my best to stand out from the crowd but it might be undermining a dating / sexual frame with a friendly / playful frame. I'm doing this with zero expectations given my past experiences but would expect some better results. I've noticed that some girls are following me on Instagram though, which is good. Yesterday I said I wanted to go out to a club but a friend I hadn't seen in a while was in town so I met up with him. Later in the evening I got what I hoped w…

Friday night at a local bar

Today was a long day and I was secretly glad it had been raining a lot because I was quite tired and it was good excuse for me to stay in. After dinner I took a nap but when I woke up at 9pm I noticed it was dry outside. I decided to head out to a local bar that usually has live music to see what was going on. It's not far from where I live so was worth checking out. Inside there were a fair number of people and a band was indeed playing. As I mentioned before I feel so much better about being in a venue on my own if there's a reason to be there besides drinking. I know this is a limiting belief and something I pushed beyond in the past. But I'm just being honest about where I'm at now. I approached three different groups of girls. Pretty much all there were except for one very good looking brunette who seemed to be with one of the band members. I opened each of them with a situational comment but while the conversations where good it was not easy to speak while …

First street approach and first proper night out in a long time

The weather in London is becoming more bearable and it's time to make good on my promise to invest in my social life. In the last post I mentioned how I went out to hang out with a friend. On the way there I walked past a girl who flashed me a quick smile, but as luck would have it we were crossing the street and by the time I had realised what had happened cars were driving past, blocking my way back. I couldn't get back across in time before she disappeared in the dark. That was a reminder to always be alert. Look ahead to see who's coming your way and be ready to make moves at a moment's notice. So yesterday I went out to see some bands perform and on the way to the venue I saw an attractive girl come towards me. I hesitated a moment too long and let her walk past but I called out and managed to get her to turn around, I made a statement to show my interest but she politely blew me off saying she had to meet her friends. That was my first cold street approach in…

Move to my new flat + IG close

So I finally moved to my new flat this week and am ready to start taking my social life seriously again. My previous living situation wasn't ideal in terms of logistics but I'm in a much better position now. A couple of minutes from the underground station and a nice cafe with a separate lounge area right next to it. It couldn't be better. Tonight I went out to meet a friend at a comedy night she had set up. I got talking to a cute girl with long black hair, slightly taller than me. I have a thing for women that are a little taller than me because they're so used men being intimidated by that fact. She was one of the people who organised the night so wasn't able to speak with her a lot but enough to swap IG details. After the swap I told her not to judge me on one of the stories I have pinned. Hopefully that serves as an incentive for her to check out my profile (Credit to RSD Max who uses this method on Tinder). I did not get the chance to 'communicate man t…

IG closes and spotting a natural

Tonight I went to a fairly typical London pub, quite light a mixture of ages. I'm watching an acoustic act and I'm sitting to the side behind two cute looking girls. I ask one if she is here to see anyone in particular and we start talking. I find out they are visiting from outside London and are students. I ask the one I'm interested in "What's important to you about studying XYZ?" and later "How did you become interested in XYZ?" got some good responses, held eye-contact and was silent after each answer for a couple of seconds, not quite long enough for sexual tension and then rewarded her with a touch and approval. I moved ahead slightly to get a better view of the musician and while I was waiting I saw out of my the corner of my eye a guy approach and get very close really quickly, I wasn't sure if the guy was doing the drunk creepy thing or just escalating very quickly. Well it was the latter they were making out within minutes. Now this …